Has your social media page been inundated with left and right wing politics bantering back and forth about who is on the right or wrong about Trump? If so, you are not alone. To make matters worse so has my household. My husband and I went on a double date to a movie, and he wanted to give me all the latest political updates during the previews. I love my husband dearly, but no one interrupts my previews. All that to say there has been no escape for me. I am all about being educated about what’s going on in the world but for the only conversation to be about politics exhausts me. My husband and I, while we have similar values, we have different political views. Meaning he is extremely conservative while I am moderately conservative. You think this would not create arguments in the household over our views since we are both ultimately conservative but it did. From the start of the debate, my husband yelled and posted his strong views anywhere he could while I casually sat back and analyzed both sides of the argument. He was firm and set in his ways, and I was open for discussion if the argument seemed rational. The point being who wins an argument when agreeing to disagree does not work because it affects your daily living. I wanted to be as passionate as my husband was about his political views but I am all heart and compassion. I am a marriage counselor. I am trained to see things from both sides. Being extreme was not natural. It was not until I read an article that understood my heart that I was able to understand my husband and while the world was so divided. Simply stated, It is not Trump, It is us. We have forgotten how to be united as citizens of America and work toward a common cause. We have allowed what’s going on on the outside to pollute us on the inside. As the saying goes, a house divided falls. We as Americans have reduced ourselves to labels, divided ourselves accordingly, and harbor hate and resentment toward anyone that disagree with our views. After I had come to this realization, my first thought was how do I protect my marriage from the negative political debates and unite us as a family.
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